How I Deal with the Naysayers
My husband and I picked up my parents last weekend and moved them to Florida. Our five-year-old daughter stayed with a friend. It took us two days and about 20 hours of driving. We made it safely and without any major incidents.
My father suffered a brain injury on August 1st and has been through ICU, additional surgeries, Rehab, Therapy, and pure hell since then. The injury was caused by a grave error made during heart surgery. His heart is perfect. The rest of him is not. He is not the strong, sharp, healthy 86-year-old man he was when he walked through those hospital doors almost three months ago. My mother, age 78, and quite healthy, is not the same either. She is exhausted, discouraged, frustrated, and sleep-deprived.
For these reasons, my husband and I are now taking them into our home for an indefinite period. Yes, this is daunting. Yes, it required a great deal of discussion and planning. Yes, it will change our lives. Yes, people are saying that I don’t know what I’m getting myself into.
But here’s what I have to say:
- The next person who tells me that I don’t know what I’m getting myself into will get slapped.
- I am an extremely positive person. This is the way I choose to live. This puts me at a distinct advantage.
- I am pissed. Those doctors screwed up my father. I am determined to help fix him. Anger helps motivate me.
- I adore my parents. They have bent over backwards for me my entire life. It is my turn to do the same.
- Their granddaughter is the light of their lives. Why not let them bask in her light and soak up some of that youthful energy? And in the meantime, this is an opportunity to teach her compassion, patience, and understanding.
- Everything is temporary. Accept it. Enjoy it if you can. Move on.
- I am strong and I can do anything. Why not this?
So, as we move through this new and challenging journey, I will continue to be positive. I will teach yoga. I will use my essential oils. I will cry when I want to. But most of all, as hard as they knock on my door, I will not let the naysayers in.