The Anatomy of Birthdays and Heart Surgery…
He turns 86 today. She turns 50 in 10 days. He is awaiting heart surgery. She has a plane ticket to Chicago to celebrate her birthday. He wants to get this over with. She wants him to be okay. He doesn’t want to miss or disturb her birthday plans. She says that he is the priority and birthdays can be celebrated any time. He has always insisted that birthdays be celebrated ON THE DAY. She agrees.
This is one of those times when living in the present can really help. They know very little about what’s going to happen, yet they would like to do things as planned. They don’t want to have to change their plans, but of course, they will. It’s his heart after all.
If they live in the present, none of this matters.
He is important to her. She loves him. He’s been there for her a countless number of times. She will be there for him. She will be present.
Bottom line…she wouldn’t be here if it weren’t for him. He trumps her.
Take care of HIM. Period.