Pros and Cons of Three Life Choices: Which Choice Are You Gonna Make?

Pros and Cons of Three Life Choices: Which Choice Are You Gonna Make?

When something is bothering you, you have three choices:

  1. Let it go.
  2. Do something about it.
  3. Stew over it.

Each has its pros and cons. And here’s what I think those are.

Let it go.

  • Pros: Oh, it feels so good. If you TRULY let it go. You have to think about it and put it through the “does it really matter” test. Often things bother us just because of our state of mind at the time. Maybe it won’t bother you so much after a good night’s sleep.
  • Cons: You might think you let it go, while really you just shoved it deep down, only for it to emerge stronger and uglier at another time. Then, everybody’s in trouble. Be very careful.

Do something about it.

  • Pros: Standing up for yourself is a good trait. Looking in the mirror and fixing what you don’t like will help you grow. Trying to change an injustice is what this world needs. Action moves us forward and teaches us valuable lessons from past mistakes.
  • Cons: You’ve got to think long and hard about your action. If it involves someone else, you could easily be dumping your crap in their lap. If it was your problem in the first place, maybe you should keep it that way. Also, you have to be careful that your action doesn’t make the situation worse or cause a whole new problem. I’m thinking specifically of public protests that turn violent and harmful or even deadly.

Stew over it.

  • Pros: None.
  • Cons: The definition of stew is great anxiety or agitation. I think you see the cons here.

It takes years of practice and lots of bothersome situations to figure out your best choice in each situation. Who knows if anybody ever figures it out. But if you spend your life trying to figure it out, you are ahead of the game. Lots of people choose number three automatically. Try not be one of those people.

And maybe, just maybe, think long and hard about number two, as well.

Do no harm.

 

 

Merry Christmas to Me! My Book is Beautiful!

Merry Christmas to me! My book, In So Many Words, which has been through so many trials and tribulations, is finally available just the way I want it!

What a learning experience this has been…patience, tolerance, assertiveness, confidence, clarity, forgiveness, professionalism, friendship, emotions, and first and foremost…how in the heck to self-publish a book! The key word in that phrase being SELF.

I can do it! I did it! And I will do it again!

Once you learn a lesson, it isn’t a guarantee that you won’t need to learn it again. Check out this excerpt from my book. A journal entry from almost 10 years ago. It says it all.

Journal Entry * January 2007

I am sure getting a lot of experience in being honest and protective of myself. I don’t really like it. I wonder when people are going to stop pushing me around. I suppose it will take some time for people to realize that they really don’t get anywhere by doing that and then they’ll stop. I still have to be firm, honest, and confident and stand up for myself. I hope I can do it without turning into a bitch.

The only difference now…I don’t think I really care if I’m a bitch, as long as it gets the job done.