How I Deal with the Naysayers

How I Deal with the Naysayers

My husband and I picked up my parents last weekend and moved them to Florida.  Our five-year-old daughter stayed with a friend. It took us two days and about 20 hours of driving.  We made it safely and without any major incidents.

My father suffered a brain injury on August 1st and has been through ICU, additional surgeries, Rehab, Therapy, and pure hell since then. The injury was caused by a grave error made during heart surgery. His heart is perfect. The rest of him is not. He is not the strong, sharp, healthy 86-year-old man he was when he walked through those hospital doors almost three months ago. My mother, age 78, and quite healthy, is not the same either. She is exhausted, discouraged, frustrated, and sleep-deprived.

For these reasons, my husband and I are now taking them into our home for an indefinite period. Yes, this is daunting. Yes, it required a great deal of discussion and planning. Yes, it will change our lives. Yes, people are saying that I don’t know what I’m getting myself into.

But here’s what I have to say:

  • The next person who tells me that I don’t know what I’m getting myself into will get slapped.
  • I am an extremely positive person. This is the way I choose to live. This puts me at a distinct advantage.
  • I am pissed. Those doctors screwed up my father. I am determined to help fix him. Anger helps motivate me.
  • I adore my parents. They have bent over backwards for me my entire life. It is my turn to do the same.
  • Their granddaughter is the light of their lives. Why not let them bask in her light and soak up some of that youthful energy? And in the meantime, this is an opportunity to teach her compassion, patience, and understanding.
  • Everything is temporary. Accept it. Enjoy it if you can. Move on.
  • I am strong and I can do anything. Why not this?

So, as we move through this new and challenging journey, I will continue to be positive. I will teach yoga. I will use my essential oils. I will cry when I want to. But most of all, as hard as they knock on my door, I will not let the naysayers in.

how i deal

 

Merry Christmas to Me! My Book is Beautiful!

Merry Christmas to me! My book, In So Many Words, which has been through so many trials and tribulations, is finally available just the way I want it!

What a learning experience this has been…patience, tolerance, assertiveness, confidence, clarity, forgiveness, professionalism, friendship, emotions, and first and foremost…how in the heck to self-publish a book! The key word in that phrase being SELF.

I can do it! I did it! And I will do it again!

When I do, I will seriously consider using Paperless Post for my launch party invitations.

Once you learn a lesson, it isn’t a guarantee that you won’t need to learn it again. Check out this excerpt from my book. A journal entry from almost 10 years ago. It says it all.

Journal Entry * January 2007

I am sure getting a lot of experience in being honest and protective of myself. I don’t really like it. I wonder when people are going to stop pushing me around. I suppose it will take some time for people to realize that they really don’t get anywhere by doing that and then they’ll stop. I still have to be firm, honest, and confident and stand up for myself. I hope I can do it without turning nasty.

The only difference now…I don’t think I really care if I have to be a little nasty, as long as it gets the job done.