Why Do Bad Things Happen To Good People?

Ha! What a silly question! Why DO bad things happen to good people???? Well, why not? No one is immune to bad things. The test comes with how you deal with it and what lesson you allow yourself to learn from it.

So, how am I dealing with my bicycle accident? And what lesson have I allowed myself to learn? Well, I’ll tell ya.

Dealing:

  • Laughing. It’s really kind of funny when someone sees my face for the first time. Some examples: holy cow!, you poor thing, you don’t look as bad as I thought you would, I’ll hug you gently, it looks like eye make-up gone wrong, what happened to you?, you didn’t break your nose? no concussion? you just fell off your bike?, etc. etc. etc. And here’s one that makes everybody else laugh: Right after it happened, my daughter screamed and ran away, and said, “I’ll be at home, Mommy!” What the hell??
  • Being positive. I am pretty damn lucky that I have no broken bones and no serious head trauma. When I think about the moment my face hit the sidewalk and how it bounced back (have to stop thinking about that), I am stunned that nothing broke and I didn’t have a concussion.
  • Being grateful. This happened during school dismissal. There were so many people around willing to help me make phone calls, stop the bleeding, bring me supplies. It is amazing what my close friends, and even strangers, will do for me and my daughter. Despite the fact that she was ready to leave me in the dust (literally), she stayed and people surrounded her and comforted her. It was NOT a pretty sight and I don’t blame her for wanting to leave. In fact, the next day was her birthday. She was already in celebration mode! My close friends took care of us. They dropped everything and jumped into action. Thank you Carolyn, Heidi, and Bronwen. I am so blessed by you.

Learning:

  • WEAR YOUR FREAKING HELMET!!!!!!!!! Can’t stress this enough. There is no excuse. Wear it.
  • Be Mindful. Slow down. Be aware of your surroundings. Take your time doing everything. Be careful. Full of care. No excuses. Do it.
  • Don’t let this depress you. You’ve been through some shit, Libby. This has not been an easy ride lately. This is just another setback and you will persevere.
  • Do NOT look for the next bad thing to happen. Resist that dangerous habit with all your might.

Final thought:

There is something profound about injuring your face. Even if you aren’t a vain person, it really makes life hard. Your face is what people see. It is your identity. It is what people look at when they talk to you. I found myself wishing I had broken a limb or something other than my face and then immediately regretting that thought. It creates a vulnerability I’ve never experienced; the need to say, “Pardon my face. I fell off my bike and my face took the fall.” Luckily, people are kind. Thank goodness for that. But I look forward to the day when I won’t be frightened by my mirror image. This ain’t pretty!

When your face takes the fall.

Be Thankful Anyway

Be Thankful Anyway…

If I’m going to listen to anyone, it ought to be Mother Theresa. This day could find me feeling really sorry for myself.

My daughter is sick. She’s been sick for over a month now. A few days after we took her to the doctor, she actually got worse. She’ll be going back to the doctor tomorrow.

My husband is recovering from a back spasm. He literally couldn’t move Monday morning and was in bed for two days. He’s up and about now, but certainly not back to normal.

My in-laws can’t come here for Thanksgiving because my daughter is sick. My father in law is recovering from pneumonia and of course, his health can’t be compromised.

I am completely exhausted after having been on duty 24/7 since Monday morning. It’s what a mother does. It doesn’t matter to me what we do today. In fact, I think that turkey in the fridge should go to a homeless shelter.

This can be just like any other day, in my opinion. Any other day, I would be thankful anyway. And I am reminded of Mother Theresa’s suggestions.

People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered.  Forgive them anyway.

            If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.  Be kind anyway.

            If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies.  Succeed anyway.

           If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you.  Be honest and sincere anyway.

            What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight.  Create anyway.

            If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous.  Be happy anyway.

            The good you do today, will often be forgotten.  Do good anyway.

         Give the best you have, and it will never be enough.  Give your best anyway.

         In the final analysis, it is between you and God.  It was never between you and them anyway.